Men’s Ministry

Current Training: 
Every Thursday night 6:30-7:30 pm FBCKC east campus 161 Heaven’s Way Kimberling City.
Lead by Phillip Davis (417-249-0099) and Sean Gasper (417-294-3017)
True Spirituality

True Spirituality

Christians today live in a world that is activity-heavy and relationship light.   The result is spiritual emptiness.  We struggle to know what God wants from us and for us… and we’re unsure what a real relationship with God really looks like.   But that was never God’s idea.   His idea of faith is not about rules or religion- it’s about a relationship.   That’s where God tells us to start.   In Romans 12, God gives us a clear picture of what Christians should look like at the root level.  If you’re ready to become a Roman 12 Christian then the next step of your journey towards true spirituality starts here.   We look forward to seeing you.   
Spiritual Commitments
As Christian men and spiritual heads of our households, we are to:
 Honor Jesus Christ through prayer, worship, and obedience to His
Word, through the power of the Holy Spirit;
 Practice spiritual, moral, ethical and sexual purity;
 Build strong marriages and families through love, protection and
biblical values;
 Support the mission of our local church, by honoring and praying
for our pastor and by actively giving our time and resources;
 Reach beyond any racial and denominational barriers to
demonstrate the power of biblical unity;
 Influence our world, being obedient to the Great Commandment
(Mark 12:30-31) and the Great Commission (Matthew 28:19-20).
How Can We Keep These Commitments?
 Totally surrender our lives to Christ as our Savior and Master.
 Develop a servant attitude, modeled after that of Jesus.
 Be a reader, knower, and doer of the Word.
 Pursue vital, trusting relationships with other Christian men,
understanding that we need brothers to help us keep our
Christian commitments.
 Participate in a Christ-centered, disciple-making men’s ministry
in our church.

Vision and Purpose
FBCKC Men’s Ministry
“Building Men for Christ”
Ministry to Men Ministry by Men

Men’s Ministry FBCKC Objectives
Create opportunities for men to build Christ-centered, trusting
relationships in which they help, equip, and encourage each other to:
 Grow in Christ-likeness
 Serve others in need
 Evangelize the lost
Help other churches start, grow and/or revitalize Christ-centered,
life-changing men’s ministries.
Why Men’s Ministry?
While this question may appear unnecessary, it is important that we clarify what is meant bythe ministry, as it relates to men. We must recognize how the world has negatively impacted and influenced most men, and understand our unique biblical role as godly men in an ungodly world.
(What God’s Word says about who we are, what we are to become, and what we are to do.)
Church Facts and Statistics Concerning Men
 A typical church congregation draws an adult crowd that is 61% female, 39% male.
 On any given Sunday in the U.S., there are 13 million more adult women than men in churches.
 This Sunday almost 25% of married, churchgoing women worship without their husbands.
 Midweek activities often draw 70% – 80% female participants, 20% – 30% male participants.
 90% of the boys raised in the church will abandon it by their 20th birthday – most don’t return.
 The average man accepts the reality of Jesus Christ but sees no value in going to church.
 90% of men believe in God and call themselves Christians, but only 1/3 attend church on Sunday.
 A large number of churchgoing men attend out of habit, unaffected by what they hear.
 Quite a few men go to church simply to keep their wives/mothers/girlfriends happy.
 The majority of men who attend church do nothing during the week to grow their faith.
 Over 90% of Christian men have never shared their faith with another man.
 Many churches are declining because men have stopped participating, growing, and leading.
Are Our Churches Losing the Battle for the Hearts of Men (husbands/fathers)?
In recent years, many men have seemingly lost interest. Since 1991, church attendance, Bible reading, Sunday School participation, volunteering, and financial giving have all decreased among men. Out of 96 million men over 18 in the United States, only 26 million say they go to church, many for the wrong reasons. Of the 70 million men that don’t attend any church, 80% of them say they grew up with some sort of church background. These men aren’t necessarily opposed to going to church. They just don’t see churches as being “male-friendly.” While many men in our churches are involved Christians, most men (husbands and fathers) in our communities are spiritually detached. Are our churches losing the battle for the hearts of men?
 With no “spiritual compass,” many men are in bondage to debt, captured by pornography, andcaught up in addictions and sin. Men are confused about masculinity and are disillusioned by the false promises of wealth and power. Many men abuse their wives and children or have abandoned their families physically and/or emotionally. Men have rejected their commitment to marriage, and as a result, families are fragmented and fragile. Marriage, once considered precious and lasting, is no longer seen as safe. Young (and not so young) people are seeking all kinds of alternative lifestyles. Recent developments in our country have opened a debate over
the necessity for a constitutional amendment to protect what God intended for marriage.
Men are the Critical Mission Field in our Communities
Although called by God to be the spiritual leaders, most men are spiritually adrift. Many pastors and other Christian leaders see this as a major crisis and are recognizing the great need for their churches to reach out to men, being sensitive to their needs. Churches must involve men, not only in projects and missions but in helping each other grow in Christ, teaching them how to become better husbands, fathers, leaders, and witnesses to other men in the community.
While men and women are created equal (Gen. 1:27), men are strategic (1 Cor.11:3, 9-11).
Therefore, men are the critical mission field in our communities. If churches will respond to
create “male-friendly,” intentional outreach ministries to and for men, God’s order can be
restored, marriages can be saved, families and communities can be turned to Christ. As Steve Farrar suggests, “Men must lead the charge.”
A Challenge – Men Leading the Charge
Patrick Morley, Man in the Mirror Ministries, says:
Christian men who are growing in
Christ, are spiritually leading their families, and are moving toward the center of God’s will with their lives, generally have 5 things in common:
1. They have a daily quiet time, often in the early morning, during which they pray,
reflect on scripture, and listen to God’s revelations for their daily lives.
2. They participate in weekly Bible study, in addition to Sunday School and church
3. They support the pastor and ministries of their local church, and actively attend
and participate using their time, talents, and treasures.
4. They meet regularly with other Christian men for fellowship, encouragement,
accountability, outreach, discipleship, ministry, and missions.
5. They have an active personal ministry, using their unique spiritual giftedness to (1)
reach the lost for Christ, (2) help family, friends and others grow in Christ, and (3)
serve others in need through help and missions.
Men are Strategic
Consider the following results of a survey completed a few years ago and reported by Focus on the Family Publishing:
 If a child is the first person in a household to become a Christian, there is only a 4%
the probability that everyone else in the household will follow.
 If the wife, the mother is first to accept Christ, only a 17% chance the rest of the family will.
 But if the man (the husband, the father, God’s Point Man) is the first person in a home
to become a Christian, there is a 93% probability that the rest of the family will follow.
As God’s appointed spiritual head of his household:
when a man accepts and grows in Christ, his family will follow. There is something in the hardwiring of creation that naturally causes wives and children to look to husbands and fathers to lead out, especially spiritually. More importantly, it is biblical (Eph. 5:22-33, 6:1-4). Satan knows that and tries to keep men convinced of their self-sufficiency. Only other men fully understand the world’s pull on men, which keeps us from surrendering to and growing in Christ.
These glaring statistics shout the paramount importance of churches becoming more intentional in their development of men’s ministries that will attract and grow men for Christ. If you reach the men, you will reach the families. But to reach the men you have to understand their condition and their issues, intentionally enter into their world and specifically address their needs.
In his book “How to Build a Life-Changing Men’s Ministry,” Steve Sonderman says “if ever
there was a time in history when local churches needed to build men individually and
corporately it is now.” As our world seems to be going from bad to worse, men desperately
need and are looking for a ministry uniquely designed to reach them as men, focused on the issues they deal with. The tremendous turnout and response to the large Promise Keepers gatherings in recent years is clear evidence.
Sonderman suggests the following conditions of men. They serve as critical reasons why men should be encouraged to join together to build authentic Christian brotherhood in the church.
Men don’t do “brotherhood” naturally.
The American male is often:
1. Friendless …in a world of competition, comparison, isolation, individualism, and
2. Emotionally Isolated…seeing himself as what he does, not how he feels, having
heard since childhood that men do not show emotions.
3. Confused over Masculinity…often an identity crisis with our ever-changing role
models, we need to discover our true masculine identity in Christ.
4. Success Driven…convinced that what he does and what he has is who he is.
5. Spiritually Searching…with hundreds of thousands responding to Christian events,
retreats, Promise Keeper conferences, mission projects, during which large numbers
are committing or recommitting their lives to Christ. Then what??
 Whereas women tend to enjoy getting together and sharing with each other, men don’t
necessarily think about doing that. Men tend to be more activity-oriented and like to be
involved in “projects.” But, by their nature, men often isolate themselves relationally.
Our churches need to become “male-friendly” places, with intentional disciple-making men’sministries…ministries in which men can “comfortably” come together to build trusting
relationships, through which they can help each other know and trust Christ and grow in His
likeness. Where they can become true spiritual heads of their household (Eph 5:22-33). Where they can meet on a regular basis to worship with other men through song and prayer. Where they can share their walk with Christ, as well as their feelings, failures, and fears. Where they can support the spiritual growth of youth in the church, and talk about ways to raise godly children and grandchildren in a godless society. Where they can encourage each other to discover and use their unique spiritual gifts to serve others for Christ and to boldly reach out and minister to other men in a lost world.
When Christ formed his men’s ministry, he selected men of all backgrounds to be united in
Him. He taught and encouraged them to minister to each other. Then He told His disciples to finish the work that the Father had given Him to do. Likewise, Christ tells us to help each other to “grow up in Him” and then turn our eyes to the mission fields before us. Therefore, the general objective of men’s ministry is to help each other become godly, biblical men…men of integrity, intimacy, identity, and influence (Sonderman). Men committed to growing in Christ and doing His work.
Accordingly, having a clear and agreed-upon purpose and associated objectives for a
church’s Men’s Ministry will help it stay on track and focused on its strengths, and will serve as the basis for decision-making regarding ministry direction. Our men’s ministry purpose and objectives were prayerfully developed, and broadly communicated and agreed upon by all men:
The Purpose of the FBCKC Men’s Ministry is to: Build Men for Christ
Our Primary Objective: Create opportunities for men to build Christ-centered, trusting
relationships in which they help, encourage, and equip each other to:
(1) grow in Christ-likeness, (2) serve others in need, (3) and we believe that these serve to define the important biblical parameters of our balanced ministry,
and to limit our activities to only those as defined by our clear and agreed upon purpose

Men’s Ministry – Key Success Ingredients
What must be included in order to have a successful, life-changing men’s ministry? Although,
there are many important elements, the following key ingredients are essential:
Men come together in churches for many reasons. These are often groups focused
primarily on fellowship, civic interest, programs, and/or church work projects. While
these “men’s clubs” in the church have value, they are often program-driven and not a
true ministry in which men are growing together in Christ and doing His will. To
respond to men’s true spiritual needs, a successful men’s ministry must put Christ at
the center and focus on spiritual development, giftedness, and outreach.

Prayer and Purpose Driven
There has never been a mighty movement of God apart from prayer. Therefore, it is
essential to have the church’s men’s ministry be founded and fueled by prayer. The need
for a men’s prayer team remains constant even as other aspects of the ministry may
change. So, from the beginning, there must be a group of men gathering regularly to
pray for the needs of their church and the men’s ministry. Woodruff reminds us that
“Men will grow weary without the supernatural power of the Spirit of God, who grants
wisdom, encouragement, and power for ministry to those who call upon Him.”
As indicated previously, having a clear and agreed-upon vision and purpose for a
church’s Men’s Ministry will help it stay on track and focused on its strengths, and will
serve as the basis for decision-making regarding ministry direction. Your vision and
purpose statements should be concise, measurable, and in harmony with church goals.
Led by Called, Motivated and Trained Leaders
As in any successful organization, capable leadership is essential. In spiritual leadership,
men who lead must first serve. Mark 10:42-45. While many godly men should take
active leadership roles, the key man should be called by God and gifted by the Holy
Spirit to lead the Men’s Ministry. Other men gifted for leadership should head segments
of the ministry. Some of these men may subsequently become Men’s Ministry Director.
Identifying and calling these men is vital to achieving a vibrant and lasting ministry.
Open to and Culturally Relevant to All Men – Multiple Entry Points
The men’s group in the church can sometimes be seen by other men of the church to be
one dimensional in its focus and mission work. This is often unintentional and may
result from the good efforts of a small group called to a particular work. However, in
order to have broad appeal to the men of the church, the ministry should be seen as (and
be) broad-based in its outreach and open to all men.

Men of the church and the surrounding community often have different backgrounds,
incomes, interests, and needs. The men’s ministry should establish ways (e.g. small
groups) to reach out to, connect with, and appeal to men of varying interests. Try to form
special groups, activities, and ministries that will help your men connect with other men,
whom they perceive as themselves. These “comfortable” entry points will bring new
men into the ministry.
Sustained by Trusting, Christ-Centered Relationships
We agree strongly with Sid Woodruff when he says that believers are not to be “lone passages in the Bible that tell us that men
need each other for encouragement, accountability and spiritual growth (Proverbs 27:17,
1 Thessalonians 5:11, Romans 15:14, and Hebrews 10:24).
A Christian man needs to surround himself with trusted friends, who will be honest,
transparent, and confidential as weaknesses, struggles and burdens are shared. Having
these Christ-centered relationships are crucial to building and maintaining an effective
men’s ministry because men are far more interested in relationships than programs.
Balanced – Outreach, Spiritual Growth, Equipping, and Missions
Men’s Ministry should be balanced – Ministry to Men and Ministry by Men. Rather
than simply gathering men to just eat, fellowship, and/or do work, men should first see
their role as brothers in Christ…. repenting, worshipping, praying, learning, sharing
together, and helping each other to grow in Christ-likeness. The men’s ministry should
incorporate several methods for disciplining men to spiritual maturity. This can include
making your monthly meetings less business and program-oriented, and more focused on
testimonies, teaching, praise, and small group prayer.  Men should also be encouraged to come together weekly in small
accountability and prayer groups. These and other approaches will help fulfill Proverbs
27:17 (“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”)
As they grow spiritually together, men will become internally motivated by the Holy
Spirit to read and obey God’s Word and to discover and activate their spiritual gifts to
serve others. This inside-out approach builds biblical men whose changed heart convicts
them to become godly husbands and fathers, and to eagerly get involved in personal
evangelism and local, national, and/or international missions.
In LifeWay’s excellent Men’s Ministry Manual, “Drawing Men to God,” Sid Woodruff
identifies the four cornerstones of a balanced men’s ministry:
 Evangelize Men to Salvation and into the Church
 Establish Men to Spiritual Maturity
 Equip Men for Ministry
 Extend Men on Missions